Bllaargh!! A stream of thought, straight from my brain.

What’s up everyone. I have a million thoughts in my head about daygame and man-to-woman interactions in general. Not speculation but interpretation, raw models that I’m forming based on stuff that happens in the trenches. So get ready for that.

Briefly:

I go out regularly, and I’ve been on a few dates with hot hot girls just recently 😊 I’ve also messed up a couple of prospects with bad texting, but I’ve learned to maneuver the texting a lot better than before. Going on the dates themselves is a chaos of riddles… but the answers are starting to crystallize. Slowly.

So no new lays… but it seems like I’m getting closer and closer. I don’t know if I am, but I will keep walking the path. Occasionally this stuff depresses me, but right now I’m excited.

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Okay time for my brain-vomit. You’ve been warned.

Some things unique about various fast forms of game, like daygame

During an evening with close friends last year I told them a story about how I visited a girl was seeing, but I was too stressed from work to have sex with her. The arrangement we had was one where sexual release was playing the main part. I explained that if that happens again, she probably won’t make much effort to see me again. We were living about an hour’s drive from each other, and she had a child, so scheduling was always a challenge.

One of my friends said something along the following lines: if she won’t see you because of something like that, then maybe that’s not a person you should be with.

When a layman is “seeing someone”, it is usually under the premise that a serious, monogamous, long-term relationship is the goal. The feasibility of that is what’s being evaluated.

For this reason, when someone who practices, let’s call it fast game (fast game: approaching and interacting with women in order to have sex with them FIRST, and then see if there’s desire or potential for any other kind of collaboration), attempts to explain it’s challenges to a layman, he is often met with confusion or misinterpretation.

For this reason it’s also pointless to seek sympathy for any problems you have in game. A person who has decided to learn fast game often has to endure quite a lot of frustration. This frustration would be viewed by the layman as childish and self-inflicted.

I’m not saying this is wrong. Depending on sympathy is not productive, and one could argue that since fast game gets no sympathy, that is the ultimate game a man can play.

Now, if the fastgamer (cool words I’m coming up with, no?) is frustrated because he is unable to have sex with ADDITIONAL women, and has already had many women in his life, or is even currently seeing one or more women, then the layman’s point is arguable. There are many men who are completely unable to get women in bed, and the reasons may range from just being unwilling to floss, all the way to being severely disfigured. One day our dicks will decompose, so why not be grateful for every sexual experience we have? Buddhism talks about small desire, which is a great idea.

However, in my case, and I suspect in many other fastgamers’ cases, the thing that can cause frustration is not the lack of sex, or feeling like you deserve something automatically and are not getting it, but another thing. Frustration comes from knowing I’m a good guy (I know I’m a good lover. I know how to treat a woman and I’m very, very good in bed), but there being a sort of glass wall between me and women. I find that my own challenges in daygame are to a large extent that I do not know how to communicate, in the types of situations daygame entails, how good I am. The woman misses it. I could create a revolution in her sex life, but she never sees that chance.

This leads me to another thing I’ve been thinking about. I’ve approached way over 200 women now, but still just got 1 or 1,5 of those in my bed, depending on how you count. HOW the hell can that be?

In daygame, there are a thousand skills which must be fine-tuned.

 

-How close do I stand

-Do I compliment her

-Do I temper the compliment with a tease

-How do I make her feel like I care about more than her appearance

-Where do I take her on a date

-How do I know if it’s appropriate or too pushy to try to bring her home at the end of the date

-Do I say “hey next week we could do this” or “yeah it was nice. Have a good evening” and just walk off.

 

These are broadest of the broad strokes.

 

See, normally when boy meets girl, it’s through mutual acquaintances or a shared activity. There they see different sides of each other. For example, imagine how much more you see about a person when you observe them interacting with other people, compared to just you and that person having one-on-one interactions.

Then boy and girl go on a date. They probably know already that the other party is also a bit infatuated. Sometimes the date reveals that no, it’s not gonna work. Sometimes the date flows so smoothly that a lovey-dovey boyfriend-girlfriend arrangement quickly begins to take form. Monogamy is assumed, slimy genitals are rubbed together in the perfect bliss of acceptance and commitment.

When you text a girl you met in daygame, she usually has about 5-10 minutes of experience of you. And those minutes were pretty intense, since both felt the stakes were high. If she misinterprets a text message, that’s going to form a larger proportion of her experience of you, than if you talk to her every week in Spanish class or whatever. She won’t have many reference point about you, and an unfavorable interpretation may cast a shadow too dark.

This is why a good prospect can be ruined by bad texting, and masterful text maneuvering can bring back a prospect who is on the fence. I was confused by this earlier.

Example of a small success:

Approached her on Sunday. Very pretty. This conversation took place on Monday.

 

Me: Hey XX, how are you?

Me: -Markus Conqueror of Mountains (this was a reference to something we talked about when I approached her in the street)

 

Her: Hey Markus 😊 I’m doing fine! Just going to the center, even if this heat is a bit too much :O

Her: How has your week started?

 

Me: Yeah (thumbsup) Pretty easy, a bit of yoga and beer on the terrace. How’s your next few days, would to have time to meet over a cup of coffee?

 

Her: Okey (thumbsup)

Her: Tell me why came to talk to me?

 

Me: First it was just an impulse. I asked for your number because you were polite and you like nature

 

Her: Okay 😀 do you often go up to women led by impulse?

 

Me: Naah… I’m quite picky 😊

Me: Anyway, I still have tomorrow night free if you want to meet 😊

 

Her: Well ok we can meet 😊

 

Twice she sent clarifying questions before agreeing. Previously I would probably have crumbled: given some looong explanation and then immediately requested confirmation for the meetup. But now I understood that she wanted to feel special. She was special. My replies soothed her, so we met the next evening… but I fucked up on the date royally 😀

See, the same thing can happen on the date if you have very little experience of each other… very small things can send it astray. It seems to me that often laymen ask each other “how did the date go”, and they mean, were you destined to be together? To that question one is supposed to answer either it went well, or, yeah I don’t know maybe we don’t have so much in common.

I’m not saying it’s not a good idea for a fastgamer to find commonalities.

But when the fastgamer says, yeah it was going well but then I got physical a bit too fast, then tried to recover by talking about my dog, then I touched her again, then this and that happened… the layman is bewildered. What does that have to do with anything? Can’t you just get to know each other and see if it’s meant to be?

Again, “it” is not even on the table yet when a fastgamer goes on a date. The possibility for sex is. And the faster shit moves, the smaller the error margins.

I don’t have any final answers to conclude this. I personally feel like daygame is important for the universe, and that I owe the women I meet to give them a great experience. I’m regularly doing daygame again and topmost is a burning curiosity.

Actually, even daygame isn’t important. But it’s what I do.

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Shooting in the dark

Consistent practice.

Be yourself.

Those things have been on my mind lately.

I may take a break from writing. I will not take a break from daygame, but I have nothing to report. I’m shooting in the dark, I don’t know where to go next. I don’t want to come here and say that over and over again. So, until I have something new to say.

Back into it.

Hey boys and girls and everything else.

My summer vacation is over. Three weeks, on the road almost all the time. Did a lot of snus, a little bit of daygame, spent some time with my girl. Yes, I am seeing someone regularly. Been for over 2 years. For those of you uninitiated in the arts of open relationships… it’s a very loving and affectionate relationship, AND she knows EXACTLY what’s going on. Gotta love women 😉

This week I’m getting back to regular daygame. Today I went out and approached. I gotta admit, it’s scary as hell after two weeks of not doing anything 😀

I’ve had some time now to meditate on all this crap. I did almost 200 approaches before my vacation. Some of those of course had no potential to begin with (not everyone can like everyone). So those that had potential, why haven’t they gone anywhere, all except one? The reason seems to be it’s all too mechanical. Even when I’m on fire, the arc of the interaction (from open to instadate/texting, to finally fizzling out, in other words no more contact) has a step-by-step, impersonal feel to it. There is no exciting storyline. Is it going to go somewhere? It’s not going anywhere! Oh but maybe it is! Now this happened, he handled it so well! Oh my god! Ahh, now I’m on his couch, taking off my clothes!!

Also, I think the girls have been sensing that I’m not interested in THEM but just in getting SOME girl. The validity of this way of feeling is a whole other discussion. This blog is not the place to get into that. What’s important is solving the problem.

There’s not much room for exciting storyline in daygame. The solutions are difficult for me to see at the moment, but I have decided what I’m going to try next. I will be more free-flowing and share more opinions in my initial conversation, both positive and negative, and preferably about the girl herself or things that we both like talking about. Less of trying to repeat patterns that I’ve settled into.

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Tomorrow is a new day.

I don’t want to look at the stats right now, I need to focus on action. So I’ll update those later.

I have visitors to this blog almost every day now. Maybe one day soon I can tell you about real adventures 😊

Greetings from Warsaw

Warsaw was close and cheap, so I came here for a week. I have done a lot of daygame.

Results… there are none. Instant dates and texting yes, but no passing on of DNA to future generations.

I like to think that at least I’m learning. I’m constantly tweaking, trying things. The future will tell. I knew this was going to be a lot of work.

So nothing to report right now, but I wanted to write and say I’m still at work, especially since I’ve had a bit of traffic on here lately.

Grinding

Slowly working on it.

I had a bit of a burnout from going out six days in a row. It’s a bizarre phenomenon but it happens to me sometimes. So last week I approached only nine women (4+5), taking great care not to overtrain.

I am very reluctant to quit for even a week. I’ve felt the burnout before, when systematically practicing night game. At times I’ve persisted and at other times I’ve quit. Quitting leads nowhere. So I have to work not harder, but smarter than before.

Today I did ten. I was very concerned about overtraining, but I turned this sensitivity into an advantage: I made less of an effort in each interaction. Everything felt healthier. Two numbers. One with a boyfriend! But I really believed I was a better option for her.

Now it’s late and I have to get up early, some construction guys are coming to do something to my window. May they live forever.

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I have previously worried about starting to be known by young girls in the center.

I have also worried that if I accidentally make a creepy or insulting approach, WORD WILL GET AROUND.

Today, I didn’t care. It was not an unpleasant feeling. May it last forever.

 

Stats, 22.5.2018:

Approaches: 175
Instant dates: 3
Contact info: 34
First dates: 2
Lays: 1

Up… and down

After two weeks of not going out properly, I did a super week. Or rather tried to… Sunday to Friday I went out and approached 10, 10, 5 ,5, 16, 11 women. Numbers were fat and juicy, but my game was off.

This week was the worst so far when it comes to performance. My vibe and attitude were really shit most days, and one reason is lack of sleep. After Monday’s adventure with Redhead, I slept only four hours. After this, I kept getting four or five hours a night almost all week. I need to tape some cardboard and black plastic over my window, otherwise this will never change. The sun rises super early in summer in these parts.

I also had a bit of success hangover from Monday. I didn’t really need to use much skill, so part of my brain kept telling me I’m a fake. A lot of weird shit comes up in this sport. I can’t decide to never have these feelings come up, but I can decide to keep practicing. There’s a lot of different forms of pain involved in daygame, more for some people and less for others. The truth is, I have a shitload of this stuff. But I’m fine with that. I don’t care.

The answer is very simple, but hard to accept. You can either keep going and try to learn how to handle these feelings, or you can not do any of this. If I took option number two, I couldn’t learn daygame. I want to learn daygame.

Anyway, this weekend I took two days off. Tomorrow I’ll hit the streets and do 10. Perhaps I shall keep a rhythm of 3*10 or 4*10. This streak of six days, 57 approaches, was a bit too much.

I also went on another date. I took the girl back to my place. We kissed and touched a little.

The name of the “Dates” variable is now “First dates”, because that’s what I actually mean by it. For example, the date I went on this week doesn’t count towards that variable. The reason is that the step from daygame approach and texting TO going on a date, is the one that requires the finest art and the most exact science, and thus is the more interesting variable.

 

Stats, 13.5.2018:

Approaches: 156
Instant dates: 3
Contact info: 32
First dates: 2
Lays: 1

Kallio delivers

Spoiler alert!

 

 

 

 

 

It happened. I can now add the “Lays” variable to these reports.

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I finished work at 3 pm. Got home, did some yoga, had a snack and went out. I went to Kallio, an area in Helsinki. Nothing ever works there. But that’s just a statistical anomaly. So I’ll fucking make it work.

First chick I approached was an Estonian insurance salesperson. I saw her from afar, meeting me on an empty, sunny, quiet street. Blonde, red lipstick. So I was turned on. Game was ok, I took her number and it seemed positive.

After this, a blur of women with boyfriends… all of them. Really hot girls. Gotta give that to Kallio.

All except approach number three or four. A skinny, decadent looking chick with big, red hair. Hot!

“Hey. Don’t worry, I’m not drunk or crazy or anything… but I saw you on the zebra crossing. I thought you looked good, so I decided to come and say hi 😊”

She was on some trip that was part of her studies. We talked about dogs and dialects.

I asked her how long she is staying in Helsinki. Just tonight. Ok, we should go for a beer then! Yeeeeah, maybeee… she likes to go with the flow, she doesn’t like being too systematic. I tell her I’m a systematic bastard, but I regularly remind myself to jump into the flow.

I took her number, walked off and kept training.

A very dry session from there on. After nine approaches, I decided to turn back and do the last one on the way home. During the session I had approached a couple of girls that upon closer inspection were not so hot, and as I had one approach left, I decided to look for a really hot girl.

Of course there’s no limit to how much one can approach. But I’ve found that for me, sticking to the routine is sustainable, whereas approaching endlessly, or outside of my training sessions, is not.

Suddenly she stood before me. Round sunglasses, leggings and some kind of skirt with nice patters. Leather jacket, hot body. Symmetrical, wholesome face and… red lipstick 😊 Classics are classics because they work 😊 Only problem was, she was standing by a crossing, waiting for the green light. Oh well, she’s too hot to skip. I have to do it!

I chatted her up. We crossed the street together. Perhaps not optimal to follow her, but there was no realistic option. She missed her bus. We sat down at the bus stop and waited for the next one. I had trouble keeping the conversation going, but we exchanged numbers and the vibe was remarkably positive.

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After I got home, I considered texting Redhead. I didn’t feel like it. Maybe I’ll just watch some crap, go to sleep and start all over again tomorrow.

Then my neighbors started having sex. Maybe I’m weird, but I find it super arousing to listen to… especially since the guy doesn’t make any noise 😀 The girl was being smashed properly today, I even heard the slapping of hips and occasionally the furniture scraping against the floor.

I got damn horny and texted Redhead. She happened to be staying in a hostel nearby. We agreed to meet.

My mind raced to the future, to the moment when I can say, I have gotten laid from daygame. I did what I could to calm myself down and take on the attitude, “this is just practice. I’ll go on the date and practice setting a sexual mood!” There are still gaping holes in my game, so I don’t get many dates, as you can see from my stats. So I programmed myself in this way.

I knew from previous dates, that sometimes when I try to lead the girl, I do it in a way where it sounds like I’m begging and hoping for her to grant me some favor. So as I walked down to the meeting spot, my brain was already arranging how to ask for each thing (let’s go for a walk. Let’s go for a beer. Hey, let’s go to my place and X). Learning is a pretty cool process.

This girl was completely compliant to everything, so you could say, I did not get her with my game. We took a walk. Then went to a bar near my place (she knew we were going closer to mine all the time). I asked her about her guilty pleasures (thank you, Tom Torero). I dug a deeper and found out she watches too much porn and horror movies for her own good.

Cool.

“Hey, do you wanna go to my place to watch some horror?”

Yes.

We got to mine. Sat on the couch. I put on Ash vs Evil Dead. Within ten minutes I started kissing her. She did not let go. The situation escalated almost without interruption.

At one point she told me, she hasn’t been with many men lately. She’s been more with girls.

Oh, that’s cool.

Back to kissing and touching… and it happened.

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We had briefly talked about rough sex earlier in the bar. I pulled her hair and choked her. I choked her for quite a long while, and apparently she came four times during that.

Sweet, decadent, pessimistic girl. There’s a specific reason I’m happy with this lay… it was a pure daygame lay. We do not have any friends in common, nor any other connection. Two complete strangers. That’s pure daygame. Standard issue for many more skilled guys. A first for me.

Now I gotta update my leads spreadsheet so I don’t forget to text the sunglass hippy chick.

 

Stats, 7.5.2018:

Approaches: 118
Instant dates: 3
Contact info: 25
Dates: 2
Lays: 1